TL:DR Feeling nervous or overthinking before your CBT does not mean you are incapable of riding. Worry can come from uncertainty, fear of mistakes, pressure to keep up and expecting yourself to be competent before you have had the chance to learn. Useful preparation, realistic expectations, honest communication with your instructor and focusing on the next task can all help. If you want extra support working through those thoughts, the Pocket Rider Mindset Coach gives you another way to explore them alongside your training and practice.

I saw a post in a motorcycle Facebook group recently advising people not to overthink their CBT because “it’s not hard, and millions of people do it.”

The message was clearly intended to reassure people, and there was useful reassurance in it. You start in a controlled environment, your instructor explains what to do and you work through the skills gradually. I understood the point being made.

What it also made me think about, though, was why so many people feel nervous enough about CBT to head to Facebook groups and talk about it in the first place.

For some riders, being told not to overthink it may be enough. For others, particularly those who struggle with nerves, fear of making mistakes or anxiety around learning, that kind of reassurance can be harder to take in because it does not address what is driving the worry.

When someone says they are frightened, nervous or worried about their CBT, I think it helps to understand what sits underneath that feeling rather than assume reassurance alone will settle it.

Riders can arrive at their CBT with very different prior experiences, expectations and levels of confidence. Being told that “it isn’t hard” and “everyone can do it” can sometimes leave a nervous learner wondering why they are finding it so difficult, and start to think there is something wrong with them.

I know because I was one of them, and through my work with riders I know I am far from alone.

Worrying about your CBT before you even arrive

If you are worrying about your CBT before you have even got there, someone may already have told you that you are thinking about it too much.

And sometimes you probably are. Worrying in advance, imagining everything that could go wrong and expecting yourself to get everything right can make learning harder because you can spend so much time anticipating a difficult day that you arrive tense, tired and already questioning whether you can do it.

But knowing that your worry is unhelpful does not automatically make it disappear. If simply being told to stop overthinking worked, most people would already be able to do that.

It is far more useful to understand what you are actually worried about.

Your brain does not like gaps in information

Before your first experience of motorcycle training, there is a lot you simply do not know. You might be wondering what the bike will feel like, whether you will understand the instructions, what happens if you stall, whether you will drop the bike, whether everyone else will learn faster than you or whether the instructor will be patient if you struggle.

When there are gaps in your knowledge, your mind can start filling them in, and if you are already nervous those predictions often lean towards things going wrong. You may picture yourself stalling repeatedly, confusing the controls, wobbling or being the person who holds everybody else up.

None of those things has actually happened, yet you can still spend hours reacting emotionally to the possibility that they might. Telling yourself that there is nothing to worry about may therefore not be particularly helpful if what you really need is clearer information about what will happen, what will be expected of you and what support is available if you struggle.

Worry can feel like preparation

One reason overthinking can be difficult to stop is that it can feel useful.

You may find yourself thinking that if you work through everything that could possibly go wrong, perhaps you can stop it from happening. So you watch another YouTube video, read another account of somebody’s CBT, look at another forum discussion or mentally rehearse what you will do if you stall, wobble or forget something.

Some preparation can absolutely help. Finding out where you need to go, what you need to wear, how the day works and what your training school recommends can reduce uncertainty.

But there comes a point when you are no longer learning anything new and are simply going over the same fears again and again. You may also find yourself trying to create certainty before you begin, wanting reassurance that you will not fall off, embarrass yourself, hold anyone up or need additional training.

The difficulty is that you cannot guarantee any of those things by thinking harder because some questions can only be answered through experience, practice and feedback.

Why do capable adults expect themselves to be good at something they have never learned?

This is something I see regularly.

People arrive at motorcycle training as complete beginners, yet somehow expect themselves to perform like they are not beginners at all. On the surface that does not make much sense, but many of us are used to being competent adults.

You may be good at your job, run a household, manage responsibilities, drive a car and generally know what you are doing, so suddenly becoming a complete beginner again can feel uncomfortable. Perhaps somebody you know found CBT straightforward, or perhaps you have wanted to ride for years and worry that struggling will mean you are somehow not meant to ride.

Previous experiences can play a part too. If mistakes have previously been met with criticism, ridicule or impatience, you may arrive determined not to make any. Then a stall stops being simply a stall and becomes evidence that you are useless, while someone else progressing more quickly can become proof in your mind that you are the worst person there.

An instructor repeating something might be interpreted as them getting fed up with you, and sometimes that may be your own worry filling in the gaps. But not every learner and instructor will be a good match either.

People learn differently, communicate differently and respond to pressure differently. One instructor’s direct style may work brilliantly for one learner and leave another feeling rushed, criticised or unable to take information in. That does not automatically mean the instructor is poor or the learner is too sensitive, but it can mean the relationship is not helping the learning process.

If you consistently feel unable to ask questions, embarrassed when you make mistakes or more anxious because of the way you are being spoken to, it is reasonable to consider whether a different instructor or training school might suit you better.

Learning to ride requires enough trust and communication for you to say when you do not understand something, when you need it explained differently or when you need another attempt. A good working relationship with your instructor can make a significant difference to how well you are able to learn.

“Just pull away and stop” is not necessarily simple when you are new

Experienced riders can forget how much concentration basic motorcycle control once required.

“Just pull away and stop” sounds straightforward, but a new rider may simultaneously be trying to work out how much throttle to use, where the clutch begins to engage, how to balance the bike, where to look, what their feet are doing and how to bring the bike to a controlled stop.

At the same time they are listening to instructions and getting used to the weight, sound and movement of a machine they may never have operated before.

For an experienced rider, much of that process has become automatic. The same thing happens with driving, typing, swimming or any other skill that has become well practised over time.

Once something feels familiar, it is easy to forget how much concentration it originally took.

Starting away from traffic does not remove every source of anxiety

Beginning in a controlled area is important because it removes the immediate complication of road traffic and gives you the chance to start developing basic control.

But traffic may not be the thing somebody is frightened of.

A nervous learner may be worried about dropping the bike, accidentally accelerating, damaging the machine or being watched while they are learning. They may also be thinking about the money they have spent, the time they have taken off work or what happens if they need another training session. My biggest fear on my CBT was doing an accidental wheelie or taking off too quickly, because I didn’t yet have trust in my ability to control the machine and I knew it had the potential to seriously harm me. Thankfully that never happened.

Different learners arrive with different experiences, expectations and perceptions of risk, so an exercise that feels exciting and manageable to one person can feel intimidating to another. Learning to ride involves attention, judgement, decision-making and physical control of the motorcycle all at the same time, which is why a nervous learner may need more time to process instructions, build familiarity and develop confidence in what they are doing.

Does talking about nerves make them worse?

This is something that comes up from time to time.

There is a concern that talking about anxiety too much could encourage somebody to focus on it more, and endlessly rehearsing frightening possibilities without doing anything about them is unlikely to help.

But acknowledging a specific worry gives you something useful to work with.

If you can say, “I’m frightened I’ll drop the bike,” that can become a conversation with your instructor about balance, bike handling and what happens if the bike starts to go.

If you say, “I don’t understand what my left hand is supposed to be doing,” that identifies a learning need.

If you realise, “I’m concentrating so hard on keeping up that I’ve stopped taking in the instructions,” that gives your instructor useful information they may be able to respond to.

A general instruction to stop worrying gives you much less to work with.

Understanding your reaction can help you ask a clearer question, challenge an assumption or decide what the next manageable step needs to be.

You still have to learn to ride

There is an important point behind the advice to stop thinking and simply have a go.

You cannot think yourself into being able to ride a motorcycle. At some point you have to get on the bike and begin the process of learning through instruction, practice, feedback and experience.

You will need to accept correction, you may need to repeat something far more times than you expected, and you may feel uncomfortable while learning an unfamiliar skill.

Support can help you engage with that process. Your instructor can explain, demonstrate, adapt and provide feedback, while your responsibility is to practise, communicate honestly and work with what you are being shown.

The required standard for safe riding still needs to be reached, and confidence needs to develop alongside competence. Your instructor’s judgement about whether you are ready to progress is more important than the timescale you had hoped to complete CBT within.

If you need additional training, that gives you useful information about what still needs developing. Your instructor wants you to be safe.

What can help before your CBT?

Start by working out what you are actually worried about.

“Everything” feels enormous, whereas “I don’t know what happens if I struggle with the gears” is something you can ask your training school about and get a specific answer to.

Give yourself realistic expectations too. You are going to training because you do not already know everything, which means you are likely to need explanations, corrections, demonstrations and repetition.

You may stall. You may wobble. You may need something shown more than once.

That is learning.

Keep your preparation useful by checking the practical arrangements, reading the information your training school sends you and asking sensible questions, while also noticing when searching for more information has stopped helping and is simply giving you more frightening scenarios to imagine.

It is also worth questioning the demands you are putting on yourself. Are you expecting yourself to understand everything immediately, keep up with everybody else, never stall, never wobble and never need anything repeated?

Those expectations may need adjusting before you arrive.

And if you are particularly nervous, tell your instructor. They have far more chance of helping you if they know what you are experiencing.

During your CBT, bring yourself back to what you are doing now

If you catch yourself predicting how the whole day will go, bring your attention back to the task you are currently working on.

Listen to the next instruction, ask for clarification if you need it and use the feedback you are given. Allow a successful attempt to count, even if it did not feel particularly elegant.

After a mistake, try to describe what happened rather than turning it into a judgement about yourself.

“I stalled because I released the clutch too quickly” gives you and your instructor something useful to work with.

“I’m never going to be able to ride” predicts your entire future based on one moment.

You do not need to pretend every attempt went well. You do need to give yourself a fair opportunity to learn from what happened.

Take each step one at a time.

Different riders need different things

There is value in reminding nervous learners that motorcycle riding is learnable and that plenty of people struggle at first. It gives new riders hope that they too will succeed.

You do not need to arrive already capable of doing something you are attending training to learn, and there is no single pace at which everybody should progress. Some people will pick things up quickly, while others will need more explanation, more practice or more time before things begin to feel familiar.

The standard required for safe riding remains the same, but the route people take to get there can look very different.

So if you are worrying about your CBT, try to understand where that worry is coming from. Check what you can check, ask the questions you need to ask and notice when you are predicting failure before you have even had the opportunity to practise.

Then allow yourself to turn up as what you actually are: a learner.

You have a responsibility to listen, practise and develop the skills you need, and you are also allowed to need teaching while you do it.

Want somewhere to work through those worries?

One of the reasons we developed the Pocket Rider Mindset Coach was to make this kind of support more accessible to riders.

It was developed in partnership with Phoenix Motorcycle Training, using principles and content from my book Remember You’re a Rider, alongside Phoenix training resources and reference to recognised training standards.

So if you have a question going round in your head about CBT, training, nerves, confidence, making mistakes or another part of your riding, you can explore it and get practical mindset guidance alongside your training and practice.

It is also a useful next step if you have already read Remember You’re a Rider and want to start applying some of what you have read to your own situation.

At the time of writing, you can currently try it with 5 free credits.

After that, a one-off pack of 40 credits is £4.99, with one credit covering one exchange, which means you ask a question and receive a response.

And if you know that you need human support, there are still my workshops and 1:1 motorcycle mindset coaching too.

The important thing is having access to the level of support that fits where you are right now.

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